I’ve been doing trauma work clinically for over 21 years. The arcs of personal trauma and community trauma are, not surprisingly, entirely parallel: There comes a time when we are strong enough, well-enough endowed at every level that we can boldly refuse our Perpetrator’s definition of us. We can create our lives on OUR terms […]
Hope is Essential, (especially when it’s hard to find.)
“Hope begins in the dark.” (Anne Lamott) The eyes of a child… Children have a tendency to be more hopeful than adults as a general rule. Even, (and sometimes especially,) traumatized children can find and cling to what’s good, even when things are so very bad. Adults try to write kids off as “unrealistic.” But […]
Anger v. Rage: How to Use Both Well
“Anger tells us something needs to change; Rage tells us something needs to heal.” ~ Tiffany Sankofa Afraid of Anger? Are you afraid of anger? I have to say, most people that walk into my counseling office are. You are not alone. However, you are probably also missing some really helpful information that can help […]
And…
In the early history of our species, words were thought of as “spells.” Early humans recognized the power of words. In Kemet, (pre-Egyptian Egypt,) words were considered to be from “Heka;” the aspect of God concerned with magic and manifestation. This is literally why we use the “spelling” in English to describe the construction of […]
Don’t panic.
Easier said than done, I know. However, we DO have the power to manage challenging situations well. First, calm your body and come out of Sympathetic Nervous System dominance so that you have access to your creativity and wisdom. (How? Go to www.TiffanySankofa.com/anxiety and I’ll walk you through 6 simple ways.) Now that your thinking brain is […]
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