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Ask v. Guess: Managing expectations (especially around the holidays!)

“People can’t hear what you don’t say. Thinking isn’t communicating.” (Frank Sonnenberg) Asking and guessing My 23-year-old daughter explained the concept of “Ask v. Guess Culture” to me the other day. Apparently it’s been “a thing” for a while, but I missed it. The idea is that some people come from “Ask Cultures,” meaning that […]

Who Do You Think We Are?

“When we don’t know who we are, we act like someone else” (Tiffany Sankofa) Yes, I am STILL on that… If you’ve worked with me or read my blogs, you know that this is a frequent and repeated theme for me. I want to revisit again today, however, thinking about it all from a national […]

No Matter What

“Have a great day… No matter what.” Why suffer? I have been known to close texts and email exchanges with, “Have a great day… no matter what.” It seems that many people think I’m trying to be cute. I’m actually supporting a much, much more functional narrative – That we have control over our experiences […]


“Sleep doesn’t help if it’s your soul that’s tired.” (Arabian Proverb) PUT YOUR MASK ON I’m watching people slip. When the pandemic “shelter in place” first began where I live in Maryland, most people were very compliant. We stayed home.  We ordered our groceries and vigilantly wiped them down. We had virtual birthday gatherings and […]