“We must apologize for the hurts we’ve caused.” (From “Seven Steps to Healing” by Edgar Villanueva in Decolonizing Wealth: Indigenous Wisdom to Heal Divides, second edition, copyright 2021, Berrett-Koehler Publishers, Inc, Oakland, CA) Today we look at step two of Edgar Villanueva’s “Seven Steps to Healing” as applied to interpersonal relationships: Apologizing for the hurts […]
Healing, Step One: Grieve
“We have to stop and feel the hurts we’ve endured.” (From “Seven Steps to Healing” by Edgar Villanueva in Decolonizing Wealth: Indigenous Wisdom to Heal Divides, second edition, copyright 2021, Berrett-Koehler Publishers, Inc, Oakland, CA) As promised, this blog is the first installment where I will take Edgar Villanueva’s excellent healing model, (designed to address […]
The 7 Steps to Healing
“Mutual respect is the foundation of genuine harmony.” (the 14th Dalai Lama) I Went to a Conference and a Book Broke Out So there I was, watching the replay of a trauma summit segment, and this guy, Edgar Villanueva, started saying all of these things that I regularly say. Not the usual therapisty things, but […]
An Open Letter to the Not Good Enough Child
One of the most common repeated themes I’ve come across in a quarter century as a therapist is the childhood-instilled belief that we are Not Good Enough. In the limited scope of a child’s experience, the child assumes that the “big nostril people” know more than they do, so the Not Good Enough message, whether […]
Black History
None of us are free None of us are free None of us are free; when one of us is chained, None of us are free. (Barry Mann, Cynthia Weil, Brenda Russell) NOTE: When a Person of Privilege celebrates the accomplishments of People of Color and ties it all up in a happy […]
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